Well, honestly I beginning to get the feeling that this is kinda an effort in futility. Not that it bothers me, in actually its kinda a relief because well lets be honest, I don't have to worry that some how I m going to piss someone off. Why do you ask, cuz anyone who might get pissed is already probably not reading my blog. And no, this isn't me going "I give up, I'm taking the blog down." This is more like me going, I gonna try and be more active about this thing here, give it some more regular love then just like when i feel guilted into make a new post.

But i need some suggestions here people, things you would like me to talk about.

So suggest away.

Please

I need your opinions to keep this going.

So I know this isn’t post about gaining or about anything really relating to the community in general but I figured I’d get this off my chest. In a few days we will all be wrapped up in the red, pink, white that is Valentine’s day. I’m not gonna sit here and bitch endlessly, mostly because that’s not my style.  In my opinion there are three camps for the day of love. Which in itself is kinda a misnomer, every day should be the day of love.

One you love it and go above and beyond anything you really should. We all seen them, hell some of us might actually be those people. But either way we have seen them. They like surprise their beloved with breakfast, a giant stuffed animal, chocolate, flowers, dinner and jewelry. Their probably also the people who try to eat their lovers face off in public.

Another group flat out hates it. Whether it’s because they are jaded or whatever is there own business and they can deal with it on their own. But they take their opinions out in to the public. I personally know people (mostly girls I will admit) who revolt against the idea of V-day and all its lovely dove-ness. We seen them too, these are probably some of the same people who like to go “X holiday is just made to sell a product by a business.” Replace X with any holiday.

 The last section is the people who don’t take it too far.

So ya. Enjoy the day if you got someone to enjoy it with. And if you don’t - Don’t ruin it for everyone else

Why is it that one person can witness something becoming either a gainer or encourager and another person can witness the same thing and it has no effect on them what so ever?

What makes one person gain certain ways and the others completely differently?

How many people have family member with tendencies that mimic the gainers or encouragers we know.

These are some questions that have been on my mind for a long time. Almost as long as I have been into this really; what makes us the people and community we are. When someone goes on to a site like beefyfrat or converses with a gainer or an encourager, one is going to find many overlaps and similar stories to one simple question; “How did you get into this” or “when did you first become interested” or really any other variation. I have found that there are probably the three most common answers in no particular order. Of course these do change by generation.

Number one: I’ll call this the personal/family experience.

We have all heard of them. They are the father, brother, the best friend, the roommate, the uncle, the cousin, etc. At some point though the potential gainer or encourager (pg/e) will come across one or more of these people depending on family and various other situations. But the male that the pg/e comes in contact with will either all ready be a large, gluttonous male and very proud of their size. Or their will grow into such proportions. But either way the sight of these in the flesh, mountains of flesh will spark the interest of the pg/e.

But to the rest of the world, they are just big uncle this. Or big whatever. But not big, sexy and man do I want it. Why because it not in them, there isn’t something deeper in them.

Number two: Any kind of public media.

This is another very common answer, although I am probably compressing two or three answers together. I know people in my age grouping, were affected by the movie The Santa Clause, hell some people actually put that in there profile. I mean I as part of this community I can see the allure. Just randomly getting fatter and fatter no matter what else you do. But to the outside, it was simply about the character filling out the role of Santa Claus in a humorous manner.

Another version of this is with the cartoons. Most cartoons especially nowadays have an episode about healthy eating habits. Which the moral normally comes about after the character has under gone a period of gorging and unhealthy habits. Example look up “A Growing Cell”, you will find it. There are going back there are older cartoons such as Wimpy and Jughead with similar results although without moral turn around.

The final version of this (which does kinda fall into the other category) is the any of the Warren Davis drawings or similar kind of art.

Number three: Stumble upon.

This is how a fair portion of the community claims to have found their way to us either beefyfrat, the old yahoo groups. And with the advent of youtube it has become endlessly easier for people to become adjusted towards our group.

But of course the other people, would see all of these things. All of these events or imagines that would either revolution or cause no reaction what so ever but for us, these things have caused us to spark to life.  These events caused us to become who we are because something deep in us was turned on. The easiest way to look at this is to look at it in a simple attraction aspect.

Yes I know I’m skipping genetics and builds but I will come back to it.

Take a few moments and step back, look at your family if you can. I am betting that you can find at least one person in for family who has gainer or encourager elements to them.

 I know for a fact that I do. My one uncle has blown up since he was 25 and continues to do so even today. Do I think he is a gainer no, but I do think he enjoys his size as a big man and the act of indulging.  The same can be true for any big families, I’m talking about people of Italian or Latino heritage. There is something ingrained into them for fooding and over eating. Beartrainer has come up with a brilliant explanation that I think fits with family meals of both mine and a few of my friend’s family dinners.

“There’s no such thing as "encouraging" in an Italian family. Making food, eating food, making other people eat food, talking about food, finishing one meal and planning what you are going to have for the next meal, recalling what you ate yesterday, telling people what you are going to make and eat next week—these are ways of life in an Italian family. Italians have a quasi-mystical and at the same time very down-to-earth relationship to food—eating is a hobby, an entertainment, an act of love and a religion all in one”

Now I understand that this is part of a fantastical creation but I can defiantly agree that at some of the big family events these were the rules.

I’m also willing to bet that somewhere along there is a female (or male) relative that has proceeded to fatten up their significant other. This on the other hand I don’t have and it is kind of sad. But I know that other’s had these family members and in some cases even have had conversations with these family members strengthening their bonds.

The final thing to talk about has come up on message boards all the time. Mostly from relatively new gainers and I admire their desire for a certain body type or build. But how a person will gain is up to their genetic code, it also controls believe it or not how quickly a person will gain. (Your metabolism is genetic) If someone really wants to have some kind of clue as to how they will pack on the weight. Look at the heavy set males of your family. Chances are you will gain much like they have. It is unfortunate because I wish I could say that anyone could gain the body type they desire by simply eating and praying. But unfortunately we are bound by our gene.

To quote several things:

“How much of it's genetics? How much of it is fate? How much of it depends on the choices that we make?”

“If you got it flaunt it”

Basically be proud of who you are and what you have. If you spend all your time unhappy and pining for more, you are going to miss out of so much that you have to offer. And hell you will miss out on the people who will love you for who you are. But of course,  I know I started this talking about genetics but really, I have no clue. It could be our genetics or it could just be some environment event that happened before our memories can even be recalled. Hell it could even be a combination of the two but either way. We are the lucky few who have become Gainers and Encouragers.

 

Okay so if you are reading this and haven't  heard by now, be prepared for a shock. I'm losing weight, no this isn't a parental enforced diet; nor is it a cry for help. I'm just going in a new direction. This had been happening a lot over the last month or so of 2009, i had what I been calling a love loss for my own bulk. So i wanted to begin to diet and work as much of my extra weight into muscle right away.

But GetASnack had a brilliant suggestion.

Wait.

(Oooh Ahhh)

He told me to wait it out another month and if after that month i still wanted to lose then at least i had made sure. So a month passed and i still wanted to lose. I'm currently at around 250 from the original 270 at new years. My plan is to be around 200-220, shedding most of my stomach to fuel my lifting. I'm not really gonna go into what exactly im doing, but safe to say i am lifting 5 times a week and running nearly if not every day for 30 minutes.

As i said this isn't a cry for help. this is me kinda figuring out that i get more outta helping grow others. I'm sure at some point i will come back (so you don't need to tell me that) but for now carrying a gut isn't really for me. Which kinda leads me into an interesting development, for those who have read my earlier blogs on my kitchen skills. I have still been expanding and growing them. I made homemade seafood ravioli from scratch last weekend. Was so good.

It also led to the discovery that i have managed to accidentally fatten up some of my friend. But hey that's what they get for eating my baked good all the time. My one friend has gone from 130 to 150 and is now in a large tshirt. Which he proudly declared as he patted his beer swollen gut.

Anyway, I'm gonna try to be more on top of this blog. Since so many people have asked me about my blogging.

I suck at ending these.

Okay, so apologizes to anyone who has been hoping i would update and I haven't. College, computer issues and a lost password have kept me away from updating. But no more! I'm going to start this post off with something fun. So lets see, I been living in my apartment for almost 2 months now, doing laundry, studying and cooking. All I have to say is there is nothing like having you own kitchen to cook in, i know where everything is, what i have to work with and of course adding my own touches to simple stuff.

Favorite dishes so far:

Seafood Alfredo
Bacon Wrapped Sweet and Sour Chicken
Meatloaf with Cheese Inside
Spaghetti and Hickory Bacon Sauce

Unfortunately, I really haven't really been able to cook to much else or grow my personal cooking skills because my roomie is one of the most bland taste people i have ever met. He is the kind of person that doesn't eat chocolate or have sauce on his pasta. So he requests a few very basic things. On top of his lack of unique tastes or sense of adventure with food, he is a nutrition/ pre-med major so everything is calories, salts and etc. Normally cluminating on how unhealthy it is. So anyway I'll probably post my meals as I come up with them and if you guys have any feel free to pass them along.

So today begins the lovely task of lifting. Luckily for me I made a buddy at a party last night, so I wont always be doing it alone. The workout is really simple, 3 days a week. Chest/ Shoulder/ Deadlifts or Squats. the whole work out is in a pyramid. So hopefully I have better posts soon but tha's where I'm at in my neck of the wood.

(p.s. i gave up on the 365 picture thing)

So I've decided to try my hand at blog writing again. Hopefully I'm better at keeping up with this then i was at the first time.  So where exactly does everything stand in my life. I suppose that's a good starting post for a new blog. Well let's see.

I'm now nineteen, I have been it for a while, and I'm going into my second year in college. I'm taking a large portion of english classes because I love english and hey I'm a writer. So what else,  Okay I'm currently seeing a wonderful guy, yes the distance is a bitch but we are gonna work around it. Thanks to the miracle of technology.

Obvious stuff, well im a sure most people here aware im a big guy.  That i love being a big guy and im planing on getting even bigger. My goal's for the up coming year is to put on about 15 to 20 pounds of muscle through the arms, back chest andshoulders lol. Then I wanna try and put on 10 to 15 pounds of fatboy poundage.

So that is the start of my new blogging era.

Ps. I plan on attempting to do the 365 day challange. Ill make a post with the first picture later tonight.