Why is it that one person can witness something becoming either a gainer or encourager and another person can witness the same thing and it has no effect on them what so ever?

What makes one person gain certain ways and the others completely differently?

How many people have family member with tendencies that mimic the gainers or encouragers we know.

These are some questions that have been on my mind for a long time. Almost as long as I have been into this really; what makes us the people and community we are. When someone goes on to a site like beefyfrat or converses with a gainer or an encourager, one is going to find many overlaps and similar stories to one simple question; “How did you get into this” or “when did you first become interested” or really any other variation. I have found that there are probably the three most common answers in no particular order. Of course these do change by generation.

Number one: I’ll call this the personal/family experience.

We have all heard of them. They are the father, brother, the best friend, the roommate, the uncle, the cousin, etc. At some point though the potential gainer or encourager (pg/e) will come across one or more of these people depending on family and various other situations. But the male that the pg/e comes in contact with will either all ready be a large, gluttonous male and very proud of their size. Or their will grow into such proportions. But either way the sight of these in the flesh, mountains of flesh will spark the interest of the pg/e.

But to the rest of the world, they are just big uncle this. Or big whatever. But not big, sexy and man do I want it. Why because it not in them, there isn’t something deeper in them.

Number two: Any kind of public media.

This is another very common answer, although I am probably compressing two or three answers together. I know people in my age grouping, were affected by the movie The Santa Clause, hell some people actually put that in there profile. I mean I as part of this community I can see the allure. Just randomly getting fatter and fatter no matter what else you do. But to the outside, it was simply about the character filling out the role of Santa Claus in a humorous manner.

Another version of this is with the cartoons. Most cartoons especially nowadays have an episode about healthy eating habits. Which the moral normally comes about after the character has under gone a period of gorging and unhealthy habits. Example look up “A Growing Cell”, you will find it. There are going back there are older cartoons such as Wimpy and Jughead with similar results although without moral turn around.

The final version of this (which does kinda fall into the other category) is the any of the Warren Davis drawings or similar kind of art.

Number three: Stumble upon.

This is how a fair portion of the community claims to have found their way to us either beefyfrat, the old yahoo groups. And with the advent of youtube it has become endlessly easier for people to become adjusted towards our group.

But of course the other people, would see all of these things. All of these events or imagines that would either revolution or cause no reaction what so ever but for us, these things have caused us to spark to life.  These events caused us to become who we are because something deep in us was turned on. The easiest way to look at this is to look at it in a simple attraction aspect.

Yes I know I’m skipping genetics and builds but I will come back to it.

Take a few moments and step back, look at your family if you can. I am betting that you can find at least one person in for family who has gainer or encourager elements to them.

 I know for a fact that I do. My one uncle has blown up since he was 25 and continues to do so even today. Do I think he is a gainer no, but I do think he enjoys his size as a big man and the act of indulging.  The same can be true for any big families, I’m talking about people of Italian or Latino heritage. There is something ingrained into them for fooding and over eating. Beartrainer has come up with a brilliant explanation that I think fits with family meals of both mine and a few of my friend’s family dinners.

“There’s no such thing as "encouraging" in an Italian family. Making food, eating food, making other people eat food, talking about food, finishing one meal and planning what you are going to have for the next meal, recalling what you ate yesterday, telling people what you are going to make and eat next week—these are ways of life in an Italian family. Italians have a quasi-mystical and at the same time very down-to-earth relationship to food—eating is a hobby, an entertainment, an act of love and a religion all in one”

Now I understand that this is part of a fantastical creation but I can defiantly agree that at some of the big family events these were the rules.

I’m also willing to bet that somewhere along there is a female (or male) relative that has proceeded to fatten up their significant other. This on the other hand I don’t have and it is kind of sad. But I know that other’s had these family members and in some cases even have had conversations with these family members strengthening their bonds.

The final thing to talk about has come up on message boards all the time. Mostly from relatively new gainers and I admire their desire for a certain body type or build. But how a person will gain is up to their genetic code, it also controls believe it or not how quickly a person will gain. (Your metabolism is genetic) If someone really wants to have some kind of clue as to how they will pack on the weight. Look at the heavy set males of your family. Chances are you will gain much like they have. It is unfortunate because I wish I could say that anyone could gain the body type they desire by simply eating and praying. But unfortunately we are bound by our gene.

To quote several things:

“How much of it's genetics? How much of it is fate? How much of it depends on the choices that we make?”

“If you got it flaunt it”

Basically be proud of who you are and what you have. If you spend all your time unhappy and pining for more, you are going to miss out of so much that you have to offer. And hell you will miss out on the people who will love you for who you are. But of course,  I know I started this talking about genetics but really, I have no clue. It could be our genetics or it could just be some environment event that happened before our memories can even be recalled. Hell it could even be a combination of the two but either way. We are the lucky few who have become Gainers and Encouragers.